On Rage

I guess my last few posts were all rants on my annoying family, but they just bug me at times especially my mother. She just doesn't know how to interact with her own kids. She always tells us how we don't know how to talk to people because we don't go out and interact with enough people. Sure, that may be true that we don't go out as much as my parents do but we do know how to carry on a conversation with people without making them want to punch you straight in the face. Here's an example of how our mother would try to start a conversation with us...

Mother: So, how's school?
Us: I just aced the test and won the highest award at the school.
Mother: Oh, really? Wow, you are so pathetic. You play too much games, you should go study more.
Us: Umm right...*walks away*
Mother: Your cousins never plays games and is the best!
Us: Umm they play games all the time and never does their homework.
Mother: They are the best! Never ever play games!
Us: *Face palm*

We get it though, it's an Asian mother thing to always try to make your kids feel like crap so that they take their anger and use it as a driving force to be the best. Of course from the outside world, they see this aggressiveness more as an evil tyrannical dictatorship rather than a supporting and caring parenting. The drive to be the best is definitely to provide the child with the best future, but of course not all kids are tough enough to handle the pressure of being perfect or directing the anger in a positive intended direction. It's times of failure where you wished you were from a Caucasian family because they would tell you it's okay that you failed because at least you tried. For us Asians, even if our parents says it's okay to have failed, the bickering mother would always remind you of how much of a failure you are by bringing up all your failures over and over just in case you forgot them. It's like whatever you do in life will never be enough, because it's not that you want more, it's your parents that want more. As a parent, yes you want your child to be provided for and well taken care of but sometimes you have to accept they are happy where they are at in their lives. Not everyone wants the glamorous life, sometimes a nice and simple life is what you want.

Argggg~